Monthly Journal: August 2018

We just got back from our family vacation in Hawaii and I'm somewhere between very happy to be home and not quiet ready to come back to real life. I have yet to check my email, set an alarm or put on make up. Coming back before the weekend was a gooood idea. But back to reflecting on August, before the big vacay!


 
 

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We started the month strong by driving to Napa to visit a friend/client and it was great to see her, meet her son, and soak up some of the summer that SF does not have; June had a few no-nap scares where she'd go three days in a row without falling asleep during nap time, but then go back to her trusty (and gloriously long) naps; spent hours researching and finally signing June up for a swim class and dance class that will start next month; attended the first Squarespace Circle meet up and met other people in my city who also love using Squarespace for work; started working through an online course to help heal the ab separation I discovered last month, which was graciously gifted to me by a friend who never used the course; finally caved and bought some comfy sneakers for our long, hilly walks in the city; June used her last diaper for bedtime and started sleeping in undies and has had no accidents so far - so impressed with her; went to a clothing swap, got rid of probably 200 items and brought home 3 - goal, met; we started having a lot more sunny days in SF; Chris' parents came to visit and we packed a lot of awesomeness into 2.5 days ...and then vacay but that needs it's own post!

 
 
 
 
 
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June's eye thing

Mid-August I noticed June started doing this weird thing with her eyes when she's holding something up close. She holds it to one side and one eye goes so far to the side it looks like she's crossing her eyes. At first she was doing it with both eyes and it seemed like she was just playing around, but later in the month it seemed to be happening a lot more with her left eye. Now it happens every time she looks at something close to her, like she can't help it. Luckily this started right after I made her an appointment for a check-up so we'll see what doc says at our appointment in just a few days!

 
 

in a Weekend grove

For a while I was feeling blah about the way we spent our weekends. We either did nothing and stayed home, which we do love doing despite feeling a little lame when people ask what we did over the weekend, but it usually leaves us feeling more restless than restful – or we'd get out and go do something that usually didn't feel quite like us and left us super drained and wondering why we left the house. Ha! #introverts
The past few weekends we've found our grove. We take it slow in the morning, have breakfast and coffee and let June watch some cartoons. (Which I can fully enjoy with no guilt since she's not watching so much TV during the week, thanks to our new routine) Then we get ready and go on a little walk or catch the trolley and have lunch out and maybe ice cream. Then we'll head home, put June down for a nap and Chris will chill at home while I go thrifting or sit at a coffee shop or outside to read or write. These weekends – or the ones spent at the pool or beach – have felt like the right balance of rest and adventure for us and I'm pumped about it.

 
 
 
 
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Reading reading reading

This month I spent a lot of time reading and learning in areas I felt like I needed some help.
I read/am still reading through:

Women of the Word by Jen Wilkin
Parenting by Paul David Tripp
Your Brightest Life Journal by my friend Caroline Kelso Zook
(Caroline was one of my business besties - before I started a business. I'm just crazy proud of her and the work she continues to bravely share with the world... so yeah, I'm totally shouting "I KNOW HER!")
Being Boss by Emily Thompson and Kathleen Shannon

 
 
 

Reflecting on my goals for August

I successfully connected with old and new friends each week of August, got outside in the sun every chance I got, and kept a quick journal of the day's events and how I was feeling every day. Just as suspected, all of these things proved to be winners in the mental health category.
While I never really narrowed down which time of day I'd like to spend catching up on social, I definitely spent a lot less time on my phone altogether. The time I spent on it was much more about documenting real life, and less about scrolling through little bits of other people's lives. Okay, and online shopping for Hawaii
I totally gave up on starting Whole30 when I realized our first day home from vacation would be Sept. 1 and I just really want to Day 1 to be on the first day of the month. (Probably just an excuse to put it off.... totally just an excuse.) But I have been cooking almost all Whole30 recipes for dinner to prove to myself that Chris and I can survive without quinoa or rice with dinner, and I don't have to cook separate dinners for each of us. It is now on my calendar for October 1. (!!!)

 
 

PLANS/GOALS/HOPES FOR September

As mentioned above, I'm actually going to start Whole30 in October – so in September, I will plan at least the first week of meals, buy groceries and supplies, take before pictures and measurements, and make a list of the results I'm hoping for and post them for motivation.
We'll be starting weekly activities for June this month (swim and dance) and my friend that I usually switch off with is having a baby, so I want to figure out a good new weekly routine for us.
There are some really exciting things in the works for both The Honest Boss and The Business Bar, and my overall goal is just to move forward with the ideas and dreams without letting fear hold me back.


 
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I'll just be over here soaking up the last bits of Summer!

 

–– JB

 
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Monthly Journal: July 2018

The fact that I'm sitting in a coffee shop writing this before July is over... actually, the fact that I'm writing this at all makes me really proud. I'm the worst at sticking with things (and then feeling like a failure even if it's reeeally not a big deal) so I'm celebrating this second monthly update! 

 

 
 

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June turned 3 on the 3rd and we celebrated with some of her favorite things; we tackled on of my big goals that I was totally dreading and finally potty trained; I consistently worked out and ate... better; somewhere during all of the phone scrolling while we were home all the time during potty training, I became obsessed with researching clean products/wellness and cleaning up how much plastic we're using; prime day/the big target sale came at the perfect time and I got some good natural products for a great deal; we had to figure out how to leave the house again and start to get into a good routine again; Chris turned 30 and we celebrated like total old people and just hung out with each other... it was the best.

 
 
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New this month

–– mostly just expounding on the overview above

 

 

 

clean up obsession

For some reason, this was the month that I decided to start caring about what I'm putting on my skin and in my body –– and the extra waste we use that we could easily cut back on. I went a little crazy and went down an insta-rabbithole following allll the instagram accounts that talk about clean beauty and/or sustainable products. At first I was super overwhelmed and didn't know where to find clear and reliable information, not just companies trying to sell their thing.

Here are the resources that have been most helpful and I'm still really enjoying ––
The "Yep. I Did That" Podcast
Skin Deep: Cosmetics Database
EWG's Guide to Healthy Cleaning

My game plan has been to research and buy better versions of whatever product we've run out of. On Prime Day/the big Target sale I did stock up on some products after spending the entire day researching products, pricing on different sites, etc. Once I've actually used the new beauty/cleaning/cooking products for a while, I might do a separate post with a full recap. 

I should also mention that Chris thinks I'm ridiculous and "it's mostly genetics and we're going to die anyway" (hahah) and we currently have two different brands of toothpaste in our bathroom. 

Now I've down from my complete obsession, I'm happy with the small changes I've made and I'm just going to be more aware of my purchases going forward – trying to get the best option for our bodies and the earth. Yup, I'm a hippie now. It's fine.

 
 
 

workouts + setbacks

The SWEAT app I mentioned last month has been the actual best. I've never worked out so much and so consistently in my life! It feels like a competition with myself and my perfectionism cannot handle not completing the workouts for the week. This time I'm thanking the perfectionism.

Buuut, one day I was doing ab exercises I noticed a weird bulging above my belly button. I did some research and then went to the doctor to see if I had Diastasis Recti, which my googling told me was separation of the abs from pregnancy. My doctor thought it may be a hernia; I had an ultrasound which showed no hernia; and now we're back to thinking it is in fact a separation of my abs. Most of the exercises I'd been doing could've actually been making the problem worse. Cool cool. I don't know if this has been a thing since I gave birth, so three years ago, and I didn't notice or it just recently got a lot worse with the more intense workouts.

So, I switched to the "Post Pregnancy" workout program and I'm researching all the exercises to correct Diastasis Recti via YouTube and Pinterest... very legit. It feels like a giant step back doing these tiny careful movements after working out so hard this month, but ugh I know it's worth it.

 

Maybe it's all of this health stuff, maybe it's all of the great Jen Gotch is OK Sometimes episodes I've listened to, maybe it's the lack of human interaction/fresh air I've had this month, maybe it's the lack of sun during this typical cold and foggy SF Summer... but I've been feeling a little blah and just generally more aware of my own mental health. 

There are a few simple things I'm planning to change in my routine to add a little literal and metaphoric sunshine: I'm going to plan some friend dates - starting with just one night every other week (because I'm such an introvert and get so drained by even the best company) as well as some kind of networking event; I'm going to be really aware of when the sun is out and get outside even for a few minutes; and I'm going to try out a new daily routine incorporating a few minutes of journalling in the Grid Diary app to track what I'm doing and how it's making a difference. Oh, and continue working out consistently because that truly is a game changer.

 
 
 
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We signed up for a weekly Imperfect Produce box and I've loved it!

It helps motivate me to plan our meals for the week when it's time to customize what we're getting in our box, and makes our weekly Trader Joe's run much easier, and we're spending less on groceries. Woo!

Side note: I added my code for $10 off to this new page I created as a landing page to link to from Instagram, along with links/discount codes to some of my other favorite things. 

 

PLANS/GOALS/HOPES FOR august

My work load is going to be heavier in August but I'm excited to get back in a groove and crank out some design projects before going on a vacation to Hawaii (!!!) with Chris' family at the end of the month. For that week, I want to completely unplug from work and chillllllll. 

When we get back from vacation, I want to finally do Whole30 (anyone want to do it with me!?) so I'm going to start planning and prepping now so it actually happens.

To recap some of what I said above, I'm pumped to test out a slightly different routine... but give myself some grace when I don't stick to it perfectly. Some things I want to add: getting up before June and reading; only checking social media at certain times of day and putting my phone away a lot more; quick daily journal entries; planning activities for June and I during the week.


 
 

Love to you!

–– JB

 
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Potty Training: Week Two

Quick, short update because there's not much to say but it's encouraging enough to share!

Over the weekend we had out first big tests – a friend's birthday party at the park and church. On the way to the party I was brainstorming an ideal situation for church the next day with Chris. I was worried that June wouldn't be able to hold it long enough for a teacher to get her to a bathroom in time once she realized she needed to go. I didn't want to make the situation a big deal or add any extra work for the kind souls watching all of the kiddos. I was thinking about literally standing outside of the classroom and checking on her every so often. Oh man, I'm embarrassed for my poor child.

 
 
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At the birthday party I was that mom that asked June every time she was within earshot if she had to pee. She held it until the end of the party and finally went in the public restroom before we left. No accidents! She did so well that I was totally cured of my worry for what do to for church the next day. She went to her class (alone.. haaa) and did great! As usual, I worried much more than I needed to.

After she crushed it all weekend, I felt like we really did it. JUNE IS POTTY TRAINED.

 
 
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Aside from slightly wet undies a couple of times, she didn't have accidents all week. She's even been waking up with dry diapers!? She actually worries me with how long she holds it now!

Overall, I'm just super impressed with her. This process has been much less painful than I anticipated.

Next step... weaning her off TV.
Just, you know,  to a reasonable amount for any human.

 

–– JB

 
 
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